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INFJs Have Painful and Challenging Lives for One of Six Reasons:


  1. They are misunderstood. This is one of the most common issues with INFJs and can lead to anxiety, depression, and a feeling of unworthiness.
  2. Feeling the emotions of others. INFJs have a heightened ability to feel others emotions and moods. This can cause anxiety and burnout, especially during and after social engagements.
  3. They lack a true identity and purpose. An INFJ without a mission and purpose is like a ship without a rudder. Purpose and Identity are essential to a fulfilling INFJ life.
  4. Being rejected by others. Since INFJs operate differently than other types, they can be rejected for not following the group or “herd” mentality.
  5. Career Dissatisfaction. Stemming from all of the above, INFJs can have a hard time finding a career that is meaningful and fulfilling. This can leave us thinking, “is this really what I’m supposed to be doing with my life?”
  6. Lack of deep and meaningful connections with others. Many INFJs dream of having a friend that they can truly connect with. Someone who really “gets them”. They also crave community with like-minded individuals.

These are the top six reasons why INFJs have a difficult and distressing life. Coaching and Community from The INFJ Circle can give you the tools to eliminate these roadblocks and achieve your INFJ dream life!

My Clients all begin with an INFJ Abundant Life Audit.

INFJ Abundant Life Audit

Spend one hour with Jay to overcome any issues in your INFJ life using his INFJ Abundant Life Framework.

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Hi, I'm Jay, and studying self-help, behavioral science, and ancient wisdom changed my INFJ life! Now, I'm helping others change theirs through my writing, YouTube Channel, and coaching.


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Nancy Cooper

"Jay helped me to overcome some really big issues in my life and marriage. I feel more understood now than ever."

Aimee Wright

"Jay's advice and insight into the INFJ personality type have been life changing. I only wish I would have known all of this in my teens!"

Jamie Sonet

"I don't know what to say. Just listen to Jay, his advice has been a game-changer for me. I now stand up for myself like I stand up for others. I finally feel worthy."

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